dealing with anger
I can get angry easily, every little thing can irritate me. A frind told me when I get angry I tend to be more subjective....well she might right....
I never say harsh words when I get angry. I just keep silent and do not want to see her/his eyes
Everytime anger tries to possessed me....I always remember one of the prophet's hadeeth that if you hold your anger, heaven will be sent to you.
I find an article telling me some tips to deal with anger, these are:
1. Take a deep breath. Believe it or not, pausing to take a deep breath when you're upset really does help. When you're angry your body releases adrenalin that increases your heart-rate and blood pressure, preparing you to run or to fight. Taking a deep breath helps to bring your heart-rate back down and sends a signal to your brain that the adrenalin isn't needed.
2. Remove yourself from the situation. If you feel your anger mounting, walk away from the situation for a moment to give yourself the opportunity to regain control. Tell the other person that you need a minute and will be back. Take some deep breaths, splash water on your face, jump up and down. When you can think clearly return to the situation and deal with it.
3. Communicate your frustration clearly. General statements using "you always" or "I never" rarely reflect the facts and don't solve arguments. Give specific examples of what has happened and how you are feeling. This gives the other person the opportunity to make amends if they are in the wrong, and helps to clear up confusion.
4.Use a journal. If you find that you are often angry, a journal can be a safe place to scream out your frustrations. Let your anger come out through your pen. Write down exactly who you're mad at and why. If you want to tear it up afterwards, go right ahead. Just getting your thoughts down on paper can be cathartic, and this way no one gets hurt.
5. Learn your triggers. Pay special attention to what it is that triggers your anger and then take action when you find yourself in those situations. If you know that you are more susceptible to anger when you're tired for example, don't have major discussions with your spouse late in the evening. Give yourself permission to say, "This really isn't a good time for me to discuss this. Can we talk about it _____" and set a specific time to discuss it. Setting a time and sticking to it shows the other person that you are not trying to avoid the topic but are genuinely seeking to find a solution.
posted by nukla @ 10:53 AM
4 Comments:
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Kalau dalm Islam ,jika kamu mau marah, sebelum keluar kata marah2nya, duduklah dahulu sambil menarik napas panjang.
Jika belum bisa jg meredam, berwudhu lah dengan air dingin.
Jika masih mau marah jg, sholatlah 2 rakaat.
Jika masih marah jg yah pergi menjauh..hi..hi.. dan hanya boleh marah dan tidak bertegur sapa dalam 3 hari saja, kalau lebih yah tanggung sendiri..ha.ha.
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Just think that nothing is more important than death.. meaning what problems that made you angry its not worth anthing compared to death ;). So, there's nothing to be angry with or at.. just take things easy and slowly..
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